A collection of conversations, writings, and resources all about giving (and receiving) feedback.
Sometimes speaking the truth feels as if we are being unkind, especially when sharing difficult information or feedback. But in reality, dancing around the truth is unkind. When we avoid stating the truth—when we are vague or ambiguous under the guise of being kind—it is often because we are trying to lessen the discomfort for ourselves, not for the other person.
A rumble is a discussion, conversation, or meeting defined by a commitment to lean into vulnerability, stay curious and generous, be fearless in owning our parts, and, as psychologist Harriet Lerner teaches, listen with the same passion with which we want to be heard.
Resource
One of the most useful applications of the Learning to Rise process is how we can use it when an organization, or a group within an organization, experiences a conflict or a failure or a fall. We call this the Story Rumble.
Hard conversations are never easy—it’s a commitment and a practice to choose courage over comfort. I know that I’m ready to give feedback when . . . these eleven touchpoints hold true.
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This is the primary tool we use to build a daring feedback practice.
Of the 10 behaviors and cultural issues that leaders identified as barriers to courage, there was one issue they ranked as the greatest concern: avoiding tough conversations, including giving honest, productive feedback.
When someone says, “Let’s rumble,” it cues me to show up with an open heart and mind so we can serve the work and each other, not our egos.
